If I were to say to you, “I’ll be your friend if you do whatever I tell you to do,” I’m pretty sure that you wouldn’t be so eager to hang out with me. However, that is just what we hear from Jesus in the book of John.
Jesus says there, “You are my friends if you do what I command you” (John 15:14).
At first blush, these words from Jesus sound downright presumptuous. It sounds as though his friendship is based only upon our obedience to him. Were this another person speaking to us, we would even say that attitude was more than just a little immature. No friendship should be based upon doing whatever the other person wants.